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As I was walking back to my car from lunch today, I looked at my… - Omnia mutantur, nihil interit.
December 13th, 2004
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As I was walking back to my car from lunch today, I looked at my pants. They're black jeans, except they're not dark enough to really be called black; they're more like a dark grey. And this reminded me of something.

When Ratha and I were living together, one time, we had an argument over dark blue. See, we both agreed that off-white was disgusting and that pure white was much better. Ratha extended this to a similar criticism of dark or navy blue, which I didn't agree with. We were kind of upset with one another.

I think this came up a couple more times, and it could easily have taken an hour of anger and bad feelings, all told. I've known Ratha for maybe a year and a third now, but given the proportion of that time that we've actually spent interacting, that hour was probably more than 0.01% of our total interaction.

And I can't help feeling—our time together was limited. And we spent that hour arguing about dark blue.

What a fucking waste.

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From:theadana
Date:December 13th, 2004 08:01 pm (UTC)

Oh, yes

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You wouldn't believe some of the things that Erik and I have seriously horribly argued over:

what kind of rice to get
keeping the blinds closed or open
where to eat dinner
whether we were keeping pace with traffic
...

I can't think of the other things, but it's all pretty stupid. Arguing after a certain point (still finding that point) is inherently stupid.
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From:theadana
Date:December 13th, 2004 08:03 pm (UTC)

Re: Oh, yes

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Thought of another one:

Arguing over who should answer the phone.

Sheesh, the stupidity.
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From:kenoubi
Date:December 13th, 2004 10:10 pm (UTC)

Re: Oh, yes

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Heh, I just realized that when you reply to one of my posts with "I hear ya", I frequently respond as if you had been posing a counterargument. Sorry about that. I do really appreciate your comments.

Thanks, Laura.
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From:kenoubi
Date:December 13th, 2004 09:47 pm (UTC)

Re: Oh, yes

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You know, I'm a flexible enough guy that I'd usually be willing to bend on any particular point. But I end up fighting tooth and nail because I feel like if I don't, I'll get nothing that I want.

The difference, as I see it, is (and please don't take this as an attempt to elicit pity) that you and Erik are still together. It's not that you've had longer together already (although you have), but that your relationship is still fundamentally open. I don't feel that way about me and Ratha any more, and that somehow makes it feel like all those moments of empty argument with Ratha were really wasted.

I guess it's an empty point, though—humans are constantly changing, and every moment that isn't used right is wasted. At the same time, regret is something I almost literally never feel (the past settles very quickly into a “couldn't have been otherwise” state for me usually), so even a minor occurrence like this seemed worth noting.

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From:papertygre
Date:December 13th, 2004 09:45 pm (UTC)
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Would you have preferred we argue about toilet paper roll orientation (over or under?)

It absolutely should go over.
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From:sui66iy
Date:January 4th, 2005 12:53 am (UTC)
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I agree, although I've heard one reasonable counter-argument: if you have cats, the over orientation makes it easier for them to de-spool the entire roll, thus causing widespread angst.

I only find this annoying when my parents do it: how could these people have raised me and not know about the toilet paper rule?!?

(BTW, there are some very pleasant not-white whites; I like the ones that have a hint of yellow. They tend to warm up a room every-so-slightly, especially when you get a lot of that grey Pittsburgh light...)
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From:kenoubi
Date:January 4th, 2005 02:33 am (UTC)
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BTW, there are some very pleasant not-white whites; I like the ones that have a hint of yellow. They tend to warm up a room every-so-slightly, especially when you get a lot of that grey Pittsburgh light...

Heh, you should see my room. Actually, perhaps not—you're probably one of those people who'd go “oh God, my eyes”. The lighting consists of two 75-watt-equivalent compact fluorescent bulbs at a 6500k color temperature. Not that bright, actually, but everyone says it's extremely bright when what it really is is extremely blue. It might actually be bluer than daylight.

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